September 25th marked three months since I started this project. In just three months, I feel like I’ve lived a completely different life than I expected. My summer was filled with lots of laughs, confusion, friends, romance, sadness, uncertainty, serendipity, warmth, anxiety and so much introspection I’m just tired of thinking about myself.
This blog took a different turn than I had expected. But let’s be honest, my life did as well. Almost all sense of focus and planning I had done for the past few months changed in an instant and in a way I couldn’t have prepared for. I hope for the next three months, I can work more specifically on many of my 25 goals. That being said, I’m actually quite proud of what I’ve accomplished. I’ve struggled to keep the 25 in the front of my brain at all times but retrospectively, I found that I’m actually completing more than I thought.
1. Finish this project
- Well, I’m still writing. Not as regularly as I’d like and I wish my posts were more engaging, but it’s a process and I’m still going.
2. Go to the doctor regularly-
- I made two doctors appointments in the past three months! I still have two more to go but this is a big step considering it had been years.
3. Run a race
- Does my life count?! Actually, this is something I think I’ll be saving for the Spring.
4. Call my family more often
- This has not happened and in fact, has actually gotten worse. My anger with my family has increased in the past couple of months and that is mostly due to them being virtually absent from my life. This task will be tough to complete and right now, I’m not ready.
5. Finish a book every month
- It’s been 3 months and I’ve read two books. Need to step this one up.
6. Win my war with weight
- It will be a while before I “win my war with weight.” However, I’ve lost 21 pounds since May! That means, I’ve lost the 20 lbs I gained over the past year and I’m still going. Physically, it’s been a while since I’ve felt “okay.”
7. Volunteer for something
- Still deciding what this is.
8. Become physically stronger
- Due to financial reasons, I had to lose my boxing trainer. As I mentioned in a previous post, this was so incredibly difficult for me. While I’ve lost weight, I wouldn’t say I’ve become physically stronger.
9. Keep my apartment clean and organized
- Hmm… failed. Look, there are a million excuses for this but the fact of the matter is, my life has been so busy the past three months that I’ve barely been home enough to keep up with it. Seriously need to work on this one.
10. Let go of a lot of my anger
- This feels too complicated to even begin to gauge. I’d say, on the whole, I feel like I’m actively seeking another emotion besides anger as a first reaction to things.
11. Take my mom to dinner
- Done! This was one of the very first things I accomplished and I loved it…and so did she.
12. Keep a gratitude journal
- I haven’t started this. I suppose I will today.
13. Embrace therapy
- Done! I’ve spoken about beginning therapy in this blog. It was so scary and so overwhelming but I’m so happy I got over my shit to actually go through with it. The reasons I wanted to go to therapy aren’t what I’ve ended up talking about the past few months but I will get there…and I’m committed to the process.
14. Take a vacation
- Not yet.
15. Have a meaningful romantic relationship
- It’s pretty hard to have a “meaningful romantic relationship” in just three months. It’s been a summer of dating and figuring out what I want and what I need. I haven’t spoken in this blog about the more “consistent” romantic “relationship” I had the past 3 months. I say “consistent” and “relationship” in quotes because really, it was not fully one or the other. Even now, as I search to find the words to describe what I went through with this other person… I can’t. I’ve been relying on song lyrics for the past few months to do this for me.
16. Do something that scares me
- Um. Well. The past three months have scared me! Everything I’ve contemplated in these past months have been scarier than anything else I can remember. However, when I wrote this task, I envisioned it being a more tangible experience.
17. Stand up in my personal and professional relationships
- Overall, I think I’ve made an improvement in this department. I’ve tried to recognize my passiveness and stand up for my self-worth whenever possible.
18. Release some guilt
- Not exactly.
19. Learn a new skill
- I learned how to box which was so challenging but so much fun. I’m still trying to get my best friend to teach me guitar but somehow she keeps getting out of it.
20. Chase my dream job and find contentment
- Without a doubt, I have worked on this task more than any other one in the past three months. I haven’t given up my dream of reporting and am closer to it now than I ever was. This has been the most difficult task for me but I’m still sticking to it… no matter how much anxiety it’s causing me.
21. Write this blog and write for pleasure
- My writing in this blog hasn’t been as consistent as I like and I have yet to just write for pleasure.
22. Entertain at my home
- Done! I’ve had quite a few dinner parties and “girls nights” at my place. I only hope to do more.
23. Understand when to hold on and let go
- Wow. Well. I’m not sure I have answer to this one.
24. Do something for someone else every day
- Yes. Absolutely. So much more conscious of this.
25. Find a sense of peace.
- I’ve found moments of peace but this, too, is a process.
And here’s to the next three months…. Thank you for sticking around this long and following my journey and sharing yours with me. Really, thank you.
Currently listening to…
Song: Let It Go
Artist: Tenth Avenue North